In order to live your best love life to the fullest, it is important to be the type of woman who is strong and independent and in charge of her feelings, emotions and what she wants in her relationship or marriage.
Being a strong woman has become such a buzzword in recent times that every Tom, Dick and Harry has now started to profess a desire to have a woman in that mould. But the truth remains that not every man can handle one.
So, dear ladies, in your quest to becoming a strong and independent woman, it is just as important to realise that you will no longer be in the dating bracket of several men, maybe even your crush!
Without further ado, here are the top 10 ways to be a strong independent woman that strong, secure men love!
1. No blind submission
Many African traditions exalt a woman’s submission to her husband/partner so much without underlining the requirements needed to be met before anyone deserves such.
You do not have to bend to such traditions and beliefs that try to bend you to the whims of a weak, underserving man. Stop doing things to please anyone who is undeserving of such concessions.
2. Be self sufficient
It’s cool to be pampered by a man but guess what is cooler? Being able to do for yourself what a man would do.
Never put yourself in a position to be walked all over, just because you would never be able to afford yourself the kind of lifestyle you want except a man pays for it.
3. Have a life
This helps you validate your existence with or without a man. Have values, have goals, have hobbies and passions and pursue all of these to the maximum possible. It is the way to have a great life even when you are single.
String men are attracted to this and will not even try to steal these from you when they come into your life.
4. Deal with your problems
Acknowledge your imperfections and work on them. Strong women know their weakness and they continually work on being better people.
They don’t glamorize it or ask people to love them regardless, as if it does not even matter. Nobody loves nonsense, certainly not the type of men you should be hoping to date.
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5. Protect your self-esteem
This one is a major aspect of an independent woman. Be sure of yourself. While validation is great when it comes from people, being self-assured to the point of knowing how fantastic you are whether people say it or not is even better..
Men love women like this because they know they don’t have to be the ones to pick you up when your confidence wilts. Sure, they might love being someone to make you feel better, but they don’t want to carry the weight of your falling self-esteem all the time.
6. Don’t settle
Another hallmark of strong independent women is the standards they set for themselves and the ones they hold potential partners to. When you’re premium stuff, you attract all sort of willing partners, but you know what a fitting partner looks like and that’s what you’ll go for.
Women like this know better than limiting themselves to trash just because of a social construct that says women have to marry at a certain age.
7. Stay realistic
For balance, it is important to also stay realistic. While you are not meant to drop standards just because many men do not match up to it, it is still sensible to stay realistic.
8. Be happy by yourself
You need to learn how to be happy and fulfilled on your own before you can really be considered an independent woman.
9. Go after what you want
Don’t sit there thinking “someday,” when it comes to your goals. If you want it, then go get it! Whether it’s at work, your personal goals… or getting your crush!
10. Stay positive
Keep all things positive close to you and dispel every negative vibes.
Bad energy stay far, faraway from you.