When partners says I do, there’s a common misperception that all they need is love and somehow connection in the bedroom will just happen magically. Even though your partner seems calm, cool and collected, they worry about s*x just like you.
Here are Her 3 biggest worries
1. Looking sexy
Women often compare their own looks to models and celebrities’ bodies. This usually makes a girl self-conscious and worried about what her guy will think about her body. But it’s hard to get in the mood if you or your partner feel self-conscious.
Use “mood lighting” to make you feel more comfortable. Don’t dress in a baggy shirt or hide under the sheets. Try lingerie that accentuates what you like about your unique body. Give yourself some self-affirmations or ask your partner what he likes the most about you to help you feel better.
2. Keeping it exciting enough
After playing chef, maid, chauffeur and nurse all day, sometimes she just doesn’t have a lot of energy left at the end of the day. Even though she wants to have s*x, sometimes she just doesn’t have the energy to make it great.
Remember, you don’t have to have great s*x every time. On the nights when you or your partner are exhausted, you can have “filler s*x” where you do it just to tie you over until a later day when you have the time and energy for great s*x.
Talk openly. Tell each other what kind of mood you’re in. If you want it to be great, but your partner doesn’t, plan a date and get ready.
3. Trying new things
She wants to try new and novel things in the bedroom, too. But she’s worried this might come across as criticism of the way her husband presently has s*x or that she’ll be judged because of the things she wants to try.
s*x is a wonderful thing to share with the person you’ve chosen to spend the rest of your life with. There’s no reason your or your partner shouldn’t have the s*x life you want to have. Get up the guts to talk about the new things you want to try.