In business, there are influences: economic, leadership, geographical, and social. Each have an impact on the success of that business. In marriage there are also influences that a couple will experience which can also have a significant impact on that relationship.
For some marriages, 2015 may have been a year of struggle. There may have been influences that didn’t serve the marriage well. The good news is that 2016 will be a year of new beginnings and a great opportunity to make our marriages better than ever.
Here are the biggest influences on marriage and how to overcome them in the new year.
1. Your Family
Sometimes, In-laws have the power to overwhelm couples and their partnership. The input, control, and difficulty they present make it difficult for a couple to find their own way and build a marriage on their own terms.
Couples must be mindful of what specifically their partner needs prior to seeking advice from anyone outside of the marriage. They also must be firm in standing up to their families on their spouse’s behalf, making the marriage the cord of three strands we’ve learned about.
The past seems to constantly show up and negatively affect our relationships. Couples can’t heal a marriage when they are stuck in mistakes of the past. Forgiveness is necessary.
Remember, your marriage can overcome infidelity, if you choose. You can overcome poor communication, if you choose. The past doesn’t have to dictate your relationship’s future. Let 2016 be the year you and your spouse move forward, leaving the past in the past where it belongs.
3. Your Careers
Careers, especially those that are stressful, influence our marriages as well. It takes time away from our loved ones. The stress it presents alters the way we communicate with our spouse.
Ever notice how spouses can easily become our punching bags whenever we feel beat up by the world? Well, that should also end in 2015.
Marriage should be our place where love, joy, and peace exist. We can no longer allow our careers to prevent us from experiencing all of the blessings love can bring. Leave work at work, saving some love and positive energy for home.
4. Your Finances
When managed poorly, finances may cause hardships in more ways than one to a marriage. Couples must learn to become responsible for being a good steward of their finances.
If you’ve struggled with this in the past, let 2016 be the year you overcome. There are money management resources and professionals to help us navigate through what we find most challenging.
There are certain behaviors most couples are planning to leave behind as the new year begins. In addition to our own personal behaviors, there are also outside influences we sometimes allow to control our marriage.
In 2016, let’s take back the ownership in our marriages, and together, with our partners, make it a stronger, healthier, and safer space for love to blossom.