How do you spot a compulsive cheater before getting caught in their web? If there were a foolproof answer to that question, whoever came up with it would be a millionaire by now, but there are some common characteristics that many compulsive cheaters share.
Here’s what to watch for…
1. They’re hooked on drama.
If your partner seems bored by happy, stable relationships, run the other way.People who cheat prefer to ride an emotional roller coaster rather than find joy in emotional stability. They get an adrenaline rush from the figurative bumps and bruises that cause strife and turmoil with their significant other and their second significant other because it leads to the intoxication of making up again and again.
2. They’re unhappy.
Most people who are highly satisfied with their relationship and whose needs are being met don’t want to cheat. Both physical and emotional needs are important in relationships, so if either gets lost in the shuffle, trouble can arise—though of course, a more responsible course of action when a person is unhappy is often to be honest about it or to end the relationship if they can’t get their needs met, instead of having an affair and lying to a person who loves them.
3. They’re afraid of being alone.
cheaters often deeply fear abandonment and seek out their second relationship as something of a security blanket against physical or emotional loneliness. This often ends up being a counterintuitive move, because if and when the affair explodes, they’re a lot more likely to be left behind by partners they’ve betrayed.
4. And they can be very opportunistic.
Some people do change, but as a whole, if someone cheated on you before you got married, a leopard doesn’t change their spots. They might get good for a couple months, but it’s not the kind of thing that changes. The personality traits of someone who is dishonest in work or in other areas spills over into personal life.
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