Here’s why a dominant woman is submissive when it comes to s*x.
1. They find it appealing to be wanted and desired.
We want to be wanted. In an article on The Huffington Post, Rabbi Shmuley Boteach says, “Women want to hear more than anything: ‘I desire you. I want to be physical with you. Your beauty is overwhelming to me. I cannot control myself around you. I find myself thinking about you constantly and I have to have you. I don’t care what the consequences are.’”
2. They are with partners they trust completely.
Barrie writes, “We can’t . unless we’re in a safe environment; we can’t tap into our se*uality when we’re being hurt or used. Our relationships are rooted in respect — if they weren’t, then we wouldn’t feel empowered by s*xual dominance.”
3. They are s*x-positive, which means they don’t have shame.
Trying new things sexually and exploring your fantasies is a healthy part of life. A study conducted by the University of Granada found that having s*xual fantasies are extremely important in se*uality, and s*xual fantasies can help with anxiety and improve one’s s*x life. Being able to freely talk about and act on a fantasy helps eliminate any negativity that might be associated with it.
4. They see a connection between creativity and se*uality.
Barrie writes, “We can’t micro-manage or compartmentalize creativity. Once we are tapped into that side of ourselves, it overflows into all parts of our lives, s*x included.”
5. They find relief in relinquishing power.
Always being in control and powerful is exhausting, no matter how good at it you might be.
Barrie puts it best: “Sometimes, at the end of the day, we just want someone else to call the shots — to rip off our clothes with a reckless abandon and steer the ship.”