Have you encountered the self-proclaimed “nice” guy who suddenly reveals himself to be a jealous jerk and player?
So how do you tell if the dude you just started dating is genuinely good, or just a man-hood?
Here are 5 warning signs that there’s a not-so-nice guy lurking beneath the surface:
1. He Says Mean Things in a Nice Way
If he says unkind or hurtful things to you couched in a kind voice, or in the name of ‘I’m just being honest,’ that’s still mean, he just may be a jerk in disguise.”
2. He gives cold shoulders when you’re Busy
A jerk in disguise will give you a cold shoulder or a guilt trip for choosing someone else over him.
3. He talks trash about ex-girlfriends
This is kind of similar to that advice about never dating a cheater. If he’s really nice to you, but trash talks all of his past girlfriendsand blames them for their breakup, he’ll probably talk poorly about you and blame you, too, if things don’t work out.
4. He Keeps Tabs on You
Communicating via little love notes and occasional check-ins when you’re apart can be an important part of a healthy relationship. But if he’s constantly keeping tabs on you, that could be a sign ofjealousy and insecurity—even if he couches it in the name of love.
5. He Has Strained Relationships with Other Women in His Life
If he treats other women in his life poorly, or speaks about them disrespectfully, that’s a clear indicator that there’s likely a jerk lurking under that nice exterior.