As two different people with two different philosophies on life, you’re bound to disagree at one point or another. Fighting is normal. While some couples may think fighting is the sign of a bad relationship, it is actually is very important. The key is fighting with a purpose. These arguments are meant to keep you and your partner closer to each other and make your bond stronger. But how can you tell if these fights are still serving their purpose? > are 5 signs that will help you figure things out.
1. You Realize That A New Argument Isn’t Meant To Add To Your List Of “Things To Rant About When We Fight Again.”
This list shouldn’t exist anymore because you’ve learned to talk about your issues like reasonable individuals. Once you’ve both said your apologies, the fight ends. You don’t bring up old issues while resolving your new fights because those issues have been forgiven. They’ve been resolved before.
2. The Fights Make You Realize Your Differences, And Those Bring You Closer Together
If there’s one thing you’ve come to accept during the times you’ve fought with each other, it’s your differences. You are different from each other, and that’s okay. These differences have brought you closer together as you both figure out a way to make it up to the other person.
3. You Don’t Fight About The Same Issue Over And Over Again
You’ve fought about a certain issue once or twice. After that, things went well. You’ve both learned your lesson after an argument. Because you don’t want to upset each other or hurt each other ever again, you take note of what not to do next time.
4. Eventually, You Learn Which Things Are Worth Fighting About And Which Ones Are Just Things To Laugh About
You’ve already argued before because of a lot of things and by now, you both know which ones involve serious talks and which ones involve a talk and a good laugh after. You’ve both learned not to blow small things out of proportion and to not laugh off serious issues.
5. The Fights Become Fewer As Your Relationship Progresses
And because you’ve both learned how to handle each other in the middle of a heated argument, your fights become fewer and fewer. Sometimes, fights don’t even happen at all. That means your relationship has already become stable that you can talk about anything.