Anticipation is half the fun. Most women want more foreplay before they enjoy the pleasures of intercourse. Foreplay is essential to building sufficient arousal before penetration of any kind, and most of us can’t get enough.
To that end, here are five fantastic ways to enjoyably extend foreplay every time you make love:
1. Foreplay starts in your mind.
Foreplay should start long before you hit the sheets. Let your er*tic tension build up all day by allowing yourself to think about s*x. Invite your thoughts to wander off and daydream vividly about what you want to experience when you’re with your lover. The more detail you bring to your fantasies, the better! Your mind will start to send those yummy thoughts down to your body and you may find yourself wonderfully aroused when you finally see your lover.
2. Enjoy a massage.
It’s often so hard to transition from a busy day to feeling like a s*x goddess. If you need to de-stress and get in the zone, try a massage. Even five minutes of massage can flip your switch from stress to relaxation, bring your attention to the sensation in your body, and reconnect with your lover.
3. Take control in bed.
If your lover is always in a rush to move straight to intercourse, slow things down bytaking control. Ask your lover to relax on the bed and then take your time lavishing his body with slow touch. Every time your lover tries to touch you, lightly slap their hand away and let them know that you are in control for the moment.
4. Ask for what you want.
Most lovers are more than willing to serve, but many get stuck on knowing just what to do. If you can get specific about your desires for more foreplay, you may find you have a more than willing partner. Take some time to get clear about what your body craves. Do you want more feather-light touch all over your body? Do you want to spend more time kissing? Do you want to heat things up before s*x with an er*tic spanking? Don’t assume your lover knows what you want; ask for it directly. Try saying something like, “You know what would really get me in the mood tonight? I want to feel you kiss me all over, biting me lightly as you go. Don’t stop until I tell you to.”
5. Tease it out.
Foreplay doesn’t have to stop once arousal builds. Keep it going by teasing your lover, allowing their desire to build and build until it can’t be contained. Many men rush toward intercourse because they don’t trust their ability to stay hard and sustain their pleasure. For men, a great handjob is a delicious way to learn how suspend arousal without climaxing.