The signs of physical abuse are pretty clear but when you’re being emotionally abused, you may not even be sure that’s what’s happening. And it can be as damaging as physical abuse, if not more.
What are the signs you’re being emotionally abused by your partner? Be sure to watch out for these red flags.
1. You walk on eggshells around him
Even though he’s not actually hitting you, you feel afraid of him and what he might say. So, you walk on eggshells around him and have a fear of disappointing him. And you overthink everything you do because you just do not want to risk his disapproval.
2. He distorts your reality
If you try talking to an emotionally abusive man about something he did that hurt you or made you feel a certain way, he will distort your reality. So, he confuses you by saying something along the lines of, “I never said that,” or “that’s not what really how it happened.” Therefore, you start to doubt what you know and wondering maybe the problem is you.
3. He disguises his abuse with jokes
One of the signs you’re being emotionally abused is when you hear criticisms in his jokes. And whenever you call him out on it, he just tells you it’s just a joke and you’re overthinking it.
4. You feel stupid
When you’re around him, he makes you feel stupid and dumb. Hence, he belittles your achievements and you will soon start doubting your own abilities.
5. Hot and cold
One minute he’s head over heels in love with you and can’t stop lavishing you with attention. And the next, he’s cruel with his words and makes you feel like shit. This is the MO of an abusive person.
6. He withholds affection
When he’s upset, he withholds affection, sex, money, etc just to punish you. So, instead of talking to you about it, he will rather spend his time looking for the perfect ‘punishment’ for you.
For more on the signs you’re being emotionally abused, see the types of domestic abuse and how to spot them.