Here, six are s*x pre-s*x habits that will not only make for better s*x, but will also improve your relationship.
1. STARE EACH OTHER DOWN
Next time things are heating up between you and your partner, take a moment to pause and look deeply into each other’s eyes. Just take a minute before you start fooling around to face each other (clothing optional) and place your right hand over your partner’s heart as he places his own hand over your heart. Stare into each other’s eyes. Getting grounded and fully present together makes for a much more powerful, positive s*x experience and allows you to really nurture the relationship.
2. THINK HAPPY THOUGHTS
If soul-gazing isn’t really your thing, it is recommended to close your eyes, breathing deeply, and thinking about a time “when everything was right in the world between you and your partner—when you felt unconditional love, total peace, openness, and joy.
3. CHECK OUT PHOTOS OF YOURSELVES
You probably (hopefully) already have photos of each other around your room. Right before s*x, take a moment to look around your room and appreciate these reminders of your relationship’s best moments.
4. SHARE SEXY FANTASIES AND DESIRES
A stronger relationship can also be achieved by something as simple as expanding the way you’re able to communicate about s*x. Too often, we start fooling around and rush straight into the main event. But starting by sharing your private fantasies—even if doing so makes you blush—can open up a whole new dimension to your relationship.
5. EXTEND FOREPLAY
Don’t be afraid to slow things down and spend more time massaging each other, making out, and exploring each other’s bodies. Desire mounts very quickly, so drawing out the process for 20 minutes or even half an hour will build tons of s*xual tension.
It’s not just for after s*x! More time you spend cuddling before things get hot and heavy, the more your relationship will benefit in the long run. That’s because cuddling releases oxytocin, and that increases feelings of intimacy with your partner.