Most of us love the notion of being in a relationship that lasts forever; A relationship that is strong and withstands the test of time. But the reality can be a hard pill to swallow, with many marriages ending in divorce. Here are seven secrets of couples who stick together forever:
1. Learn to forgive, forget and move on
This is one of the most important factors that determine the longevity of a relationship. Unless both partners are forgiving, a relationship cannot last long.
2. Have healthy fights
When two adults live together, fights are inevitable. It is how we fight and resolve issues that matter. Having healthy fights can be a sign of a healthy relationship. Just ensure that the purpose of your fight is to resolve issues, rather than to throw accusations and/or blame each other.
3. Discuss finances
As much as you would like it to be otherwise, life is not a fairytale. You need to face practical issues such as each other’s finances and savings, and your future money-oriented goals.
4. Keep boredom at bay
Nothing can kill a relationship faster than boredom. We, as humans are programmed to gravitate to new experiences. So when a relationship gets stale and boring, our need for something new and exciting arises. How do you keep boredom at bay? Talk to your partner, find out hobbies and interests that you both share and nurture that.
5. Hold each other’s hands whenever you can
There is actual scientific evidence to back up the theory that holding hands can make your relationship stronger.
6. Show appreciation
Never take your partner/spouse for granted. Showing appreciation and gratitude for both the little and big things that they do is a great way to let them know that you notice and are grateful for their efforts.
7. Share a kiss in bed before falling asleep
With work and life taking its toll, spending quality time with your partner is becoming more difficult. Most couples have scheduled s*x, preferably on the weekends when they don’t have to worry about work. So what about the rest of the nights? Just because you don’t have the time or energy for s*x does not mean you cannot have a special, intimate moment. It can be something as simple as kissing your partner good night, every night, that can strengthen your bond and bring you closer together.
All these ingredients come together to ensure that a couple stays together, no matter what hurdles life throws at them.