You’re called partners for a reason. Both sides should have an equal say. And this all goes without saying that not caring about your feelings is incredibly cold and callous. Here’s how you can tell it’s happening to you.
1. You never get to make any decisions.
He might hear you out to give you the illusion that he cares what you think, but ultimately he makes all the calls. Your opinions don’t matter, remember?
2. He straight-up rejects your emotions.
He is always saying stuffs like “There’s no way you’re mad at me right now. Not after I just took you out to dinner” when you tell him what how you feel.
3. And then he tells you what (he thinks) you really feel.
He says something like “You’re just jealous because you think I was flirting with the waitress.”
4. Or he tells you how you should feel.
Nothing is more frustrating than a person telling you how to feel. Think about any time someone has told you to “relax” during a heated argument. It just fills you with rage, right?
5. He ignores you.
The silent treatment is another way to say, “Your feelings aren’t important enough to me to even address.”
6. He makes your feelings out to be your fault.
We do have control over our emotions to some extent, but always claiming you’re too sensitive every time you get upset just invalidates any unhappiness you might have. And then, since you’re “not really unhappy, just being sensitive,” there’s no need to talk about why you’re unhappy. This can apply to almost any emotion.
7. He’s dismissive.
It’s like the silent treatment, but he’s telling you why he doesn’t want to talk about it.