It’s always nice to see couples who act like sweethearts (or honeymooners) even after being together for years. In modern times, this can be considered a feat. Inevitably, you’ll ask yourself how they achieved such a healthy relationship despite the monotony and inevitable problems of sharing life with someone.
Well, I can tell you that these couples manage to find a way to succeed despite these things. They know they need to take time to mature, get to know each other better, and, above all, be willing to give of themselves for the good of the relationship. These happy couples cultivate things that other couples become frustrated with and give up on.
In this article, I will explain how you and your partner can also implement these things into your relationship, and achieve a happy and healthy marriage that lasts until the very end of time.
Here are 8 habits of eternal couples:
1. They seek effective communication
As you know, good communication between both parties is vital to understanding and expressing what is thought, wanted and felt. Effective communication involves knowing how to discuss things politely.
It’s important to check what you say and even how you say things. Remember to control the tone of your voice when discussing your feelings, so you don’t hurt your partner.
2. Maintain mutual respect
Respect means valuing, loving, and caring for your spouse. But respect also involves respecting their time, individuality and feelings. Therefore, take care not to overstep their personal boundaries.
3. Time is about quality, not quantity
Just like with your children, it’s useless to spend all day at home, or on a walk if you’re not going to share your attention and understanding heart. It’s not about how much the activity costs; it’s about enjoying a nice chat about any subject over breakfast and showing that you truly care about your life partner.
4. Take care of the little details
If you think small details (like gifts) take second place after getting married, you’re wrong. Both men and women appreciate a gift, however small, because gifts are a physical manifestation of the affection you have.
There’s no need to buy expensive diamonds or an expensive dinner, but a breakfast in bed from time to time, or a romantic walk under the moonlight, will make all the difference.
5. Value your spouse
A well-known phrase says: “you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone.” A possible correction to this phrase occurred to me: “You always knew what you had, but you never thought you’d lose it.”
A man or woman who values their partner will never know the feeling of desolation that comes from losing the person they love from their life.
Take care of your loved one; he is with you because he loves you. You might need to make sacrifices to unite their life to yours. Value your partner because the investment of time and affection in the relationship can’t be replaced later.
6. They recognize both the “good” and “bad” of the relationship
It’s well known that no one is all good or all bad; relationships are no exception. It isn’t fair to give the negative parts of your partner or relationship more attention than they deserve but seeing reality can also help you be grateful for what you do have.
7. They know when to be quiet and when to talk
What relationship doesn’t have problems? I don’t know of a single one. Maintaining a healthy relationship is knowing when to be quiet before committing a fatal error and distinguishing when it it’s necessary to say something.
Keep in mind- don’t make a big deal about something minimal and undeserving because when a discussion really is necessary, the relationship will be too tired to endure more disagreement.
8. They cultivate their intimate relationship
It’s well-known that a healthy s*x life is the highest expression of affection for a couple. This is personal and unique for every marriage, but try to make it interesting so you don’t extinguish the flame of attraction.
Maintain a relationship like an old couple. It’s not as complex as you thought. It’s just a matter of caring for these little details that sometimes get overlooked. If you take care of these things, your relationship will not only be eternal, but resistant to every difficulty.
This article was translated and adapted from the original article Conoce los sanos hábitos de las parejas eternas originally published on familias.com.