There was a time when getting a text from your partner gave you a tingle of thrill, and when just sitting on the couch talking felt like a trip to the moon. But now things aren’t that way, and you maybe even start to wonder if you’ve fallen out of love.
There are a few simple things that could be causing your once spicy relationship to be downright lack-luster.
Here are 8 reasons your relationship has become boring and what you can do:
1. You aren’t being honest
Dishonesty can take many forms. White lies or withholding information are signs that your relationship is lacking in the honesty department.
When you aren’t being completely honest with your partner, your relationship doesn’t just lose trust, it becomes boring. This is because you aren’t completely connecting with your partner. If you want your relationship to get spicy again, you need to stop acting from behind a mask and reveal your soul a bit. This will make your relationship more real. What’s more romantic than that?
2. You’re together all the time
It’s great that you love being together, but you should also love being apart. Spending all your time together can make your relationship suffer.
If your partner is at your side every minute of the day, you should take some time to hang out with some of your old friends, or go take a class by yourself. If nothing else, you’ll have things to talk about when you reunite.
3. You’re unknowingly cheating
You may be having an affair without even realizing it. Cheating isn’t just about the physical things. If you are spending time alone with someone of the opposite gender, putting others before your spouse, or speaking negatively about your partner, you are being unfaithful to them. This behavior puts your focus on someone else and can make you less interested in the relationship you already have.
If you want to regain the spice in your marriage, you need to become solely focused on your spouse.
4. You’re not having s*x
There’s so many excuses for not getting intimate, being too busy, not having alone time, being too tired, etc. But if you want your relationship to sizzle again, you need to make sure your s*x life is alive.
5. You haven’t talked about it
If you’ve been feeling “blah” about your relationship, you need to talk to your partner about it. Chances are, your partner is feeling the same way as you and she might have some good insights on the cause. Not only that, but together you can make a plan to remedy your dull love life.
6. You’re stuck in routine
If your days start to resemble the movie “Groundhog Day,” with a repetition of getting up, getting ready, going to work, eating dinner, reading a book, and then going to bed only to start over again, it’s no wonder that your relationship has gotten boring. Your life is getting pretty boring as well.
Mix up your routine however you can. Eat breakfast on the floor, go on a walk to the park after dinner, or surprise your spouse at work. Find some way that you can disrupt your regular routine to minimize the boringness.
7. You’ve stopped trying to win each other
Relationships require constant cultivation. While feeling secure in your relationship is desirable, you shouldn’t let this security become complacency. Realize that you both need to keep falling in love with each other again and again. This means that you shouldn’t stop doing the adorable things you did before you started dating, or when you just began dating.
8. There’s no future
If you don’t make plans for the future together, you are removing excitement from your relationship. Whether it’s a trip to that art exhibit you’ve both wanted to check out or a weekend getaway, plan something that the two of you can do together that will inject a little spice into your life.