Are you in love with a guy who seems to be in love with his ex?
Sometimes it’s ok if a guy dates you as a rebound, at least rebounds most times could lead to something more serious and even end up in marriage, but it’s worse if a guy is using you to get over his ex. He basically see’s you as a tool and once he’s done with you he’d discard you like a used rubber and never look back. Hmm that’s bad..
Here area few tell tale signs he’s probably using you to get over his ex
1. THE RELATIONSHIP ISN’T ROMANTIC AT ALL
Is the relationship more physical than emotional? Go ahead and take that as a sign. You can tell that you’re a rebound just by paying attention to your s*x life. If the s*x feels detached and consumes a good majority of the relationship, it’s rebound s*x. Now, don’t mistake zero inhibitions s*x for rebound s*x — they can both be wild and intense, but only one of them helps someone forget about their ex (at least for a few minutes… maybe even seconds).
2. HE BARELY MAKES PLANS FOR THE FUTURE
If a guy is really interested in you, he’ll make plans for the future. He may not be getting down on one knee proposing, but he’ll say small things that will make you know he’s not planning on breaking up with you next week. If he isn’t talking about the future, it’s because he’s not that serious about you. He knows that you’re temporary and he’s treating you as such — wake up and smell the a*****e in the room!
3. HE’S STILL VERY BITTER ABOUT HIS EX
Not only does he still talk about his ex, but everything he says about her sounds resentful — a huge sign that he’s not over the relationship! You can tell a lot about a guy by the way he talks about a past girlfriend. If he says something like, “I don’t think she ever really loved me,” he’s still hurt by how the relationship ended and most definitely not over it. He’s talking about his ex because he’s still thinking about his ex — could he be any more obvious?
4. YOU STILL HAVEN’T MET HIS FAMILY
Not only have you not met his family, they may not even know you exist. If his mom calls when you two are together and he doesn’t mention you even though you’re literally sitting only inches away from him then his family knows nothing about you. If he isn’t telling his parents about you, it’s because he knows deep down that you aren’t going to be around long. Ouch!
5. YOU FEEL LIKE YOU’RE BEING COMPARED TO HIS LAST GIRLFRIEND
He may not outright compare you to his ex, but you feel like he’s secretly judging. It’s like if you do something his ex wouldn’t do, he automatically thinks less of you. He may even throw out suggestions for how you should live your life. Interestingly enough, those suggestions relate directly back to his ex. If you feel like he’s replacing you with his ex-girlfriend, it’s because he is.
6. HE CAN’T COMMIT
He can talk about the relationship he had with his ex, but not the one he currently has with you. If he avoids the “R” word, it’s because he’s not ready for real commitment. You can’t blame him, especially if he just got out of a serious relationship. Having said that, he has no reason to be tagging you along for his single man journey. It’s fine that he wants to enjoy his explorative years by keeping his options open, but don’t let him lead you on.
7. HIS EX IS STILL AROUND
If they just broke up but they’re still hanging out, you need to chuck up your deuces and go! I don’t care if their breakup was mutual (which it never is) — they shouldn’t be spending time together! And more importantly, you shouldn’t be with someone who can’t stop seeing their ex. Think about it. Why would they want to hang out together right after a breakup? Obviously because they still have feelings for one another! Go ahead and bow out of that relationship — let those two love birds find their way back to each other.
8. HE LITERALLY FORGETS WHO YOU ARE
He mixes up the details of your relationship with his past relationship. Sometimes he forgets that his girlfriend was the one who liked to hike and you’re the one who likes to binge watch SVU. The kid is too busy thinking about his ex to realize that you aren’t her. What’s next? He’ll scream his ex’s name while you two are having s*x? Don’t let it come to that — accept that you’re his rebound sooner than later.