Are you a happy person with healthy confidence and boundaries? Then you should be okay. Many men are looking for and want to adore women like that. A woman like that has tons of options because she is a rare commodity.
Here are some remedial steps you can start taking now to avoid getting stuck in a relationship that isn’t going anywhere:
1. Back off.
Collect yourself, your thoughts, your aspirations, dreams, fears and triggers. Go on a hike or a walk and meditate on them.
Have you been too clingy and needy as of late? Does it stain the closeness you once had? Pulling away and just focusing on fulfilling your own needs, at this point, is the first start.
2. Don’t use a relationship as security.
Is your identity too much enmeshed in this relationship or the idea of being his girlfriend? If yes, then you have self-esteem issues. You don’t want a relationship as much as you want the security of a relationship.
The more you want security, the less likely you’ll get it. Security only takes place when you fully embrace the insecurity inherent in every aspect of life, and that especially includes love.
3. Stop bringing the subject up.
Just go about living your life to the fullest, which means you’re committed to making your life so much more colorful that he will have to see the change in you and your availability. He will need to see you glow and radiate contentment and feminine allure.
Be different. Do things differently, change your routine or even look different! Spend more time with yourself and people around you like your friends, colleagues, family members, etc. Make him wonder why you are not on his back as you usually were. Shock him.
4. Take some time for yourself.
Take a trip by yourself or your friends. A trip is a great way to recharge yourself and — in the process — your stalled relationship. Why? Because when you are on a trip, you are brought into a new environment and experience.
To him, it can induce his insecurities a little bit. He will wonder what you’ll do and with whom and which new people you’ll meet. You introduce a new challenge into the relationship, a new variable into the equation. That puts him on the edge, and he’s afraid of falling off so his first instinct will be to grasp you tighter.
Be gracious and excited about telling your experience. The thrill will give you new blood, and he will notice the shifted vibe in you. And as I always say, the change in your relationship should start with the shifting of your energy. Your vibration needs to be raised first.
6. Move on.
If you have done all those steps and he’s still not stepping up, then girl, you really deserve a better man, don’t you think? A woman like you shouldn’t have a problem finding the right guy who will reciprocate everything you have to offer. Don’t sell yourself short.
Next time, learn to love unconditionally and without expectations, yet only allow yourself to fall in love and be in love with a man who seeks, courts and claims you. Period. It’s about you as well as the right choice of men.