A successful happy adult is comfortable with his/her se*uality and happy with his/her s*x life. We, as parents, want our teens to be successful happy adults. It then goes without saying that we want our teens to grow up and be comfortable with their se*uality and happy with their s*x life. In order for this to happen, your teen needs to learn about or begin to explore these ten essentials during his/her adolescent life stage:
1:He/she will need to learn about his/her body and how his/her s*xual organs work. This should begin in earlier childhood and continue through adolescence. The natural progression of information as your child grows should be made available . you. It is extremely important that parents do not leave this up to their peers, schools or other resources as family values and positive self-images are often relayed with these talks.
2:He/She will need to become aware of how his/her se*uality is tied to his/her body image. Your teen will need to understand that how he/she feels about his/her self and his/her appearance is a big key to whether he/she will be happy with in his/her s*x life.
3:Your teen will need to learn about his/her gender, the other gender and gender differences. Social differences, as well as society’s perceptions of the different genders, are important for teens to flush out and explore as much as the biological differences.
4:He/she needs to discover the normalcy of s*xual feelings. As your teen learns to recognize them and accept them as normal feelings he/she will learn to deal with these feelings maturely.
5:He/she needs be taught about the physical act of s*x. Not only do teens need to know what intercourse is, he/she should also be made aware that intercourse is pleasurable and why it’s pleasurable for both sexes.
6:He/she will need to develop an understanding of s*xual orientation. What gay, straight and bisexual means and where he/she fits in with his/her own s*xual orientation. Teens should also learn about prejudices against different s*xual orientations and what can be done about this problem.
7:Your teen needs to be taught how babies are made. This is not the same as how to have intercourse, that is a . point, this is how the egg and sperm meet to produce an embryo. Teens should learn about cycles and how women can get pregnant without having s*x.
8:He/she needs be taught about safe s*x, teen pregnancy, and sexually transmitted diseases. Teens need to know that there are pitfalls to becoming sexually active without thinking it through and taking precautionary steps.
9:Your teen will need to develop an understanding of how s*x ties into dating and short- or long-term relationships. Teens need to realize that another person is involved when you’re in a relationship, it is not ‘all about me’.
10:He/She will need to recognize s*xual exploitation and be aware of s*xual and emotional abuse. It will need to be made clear to your teen that there are people who would use them for s*x. And the truth is, some of these people may not be strangers to them.
These ten essentials are in no specific order and none have more importance than any of the others. When you are talking to your teen about one of them, you may find yourself an opportunity to talk about another one. There is no one imperative time to discuss any of this with your teen and this is not a laundry list for one big talk.
Use it as an outline and bring small specifics up > and there. The most important thing to remember throughout all of your talks with your teen is to keep those lines of communication open so he/she can come to you as well.