It can be hard enough to understand women in general, let alone the female climax.
So to help you bring her to climax every time—and therefore have more pleasurable s*x—we asked our s*x professor, Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., your top climax questions.
Q: Is it possible for a woman to have an climax and not make that much noise?
A: Yes. Women—and men—don’t always make audible sounds during climax.
Q: Is s*x enjoyable for her if she doesn’t climax?
A: Women, more often than men, report that they find s*x to be pleasurable even if they do not climax.
In addition to the fact that it feels pleasurable to be touched, many women enjoy the intimacy that s*x provides, the kissing, touching, closeness, etc.
Q: Is there an average time to her climax?
A: It depends in what way she’s stimulated. self service with a vibrator is the quickest route to climax, while intercourse tends to take more time, for the majority of women.
But it varies so much not only but from s*x act to s*x act, but also from woman to woman.
Q: How can a guy bring a woman to climax faster?
A: Women sometimes find it easier to climax if they are relaxed and feel comfortable with their partner.
climax is more likely with a regular relationship partner than a casual partner.
Help her relax . addressing any relationship conflicts, and talking about (and trying to meet) her needs for affection and intimacy. Be positive and complimentary about issues she’s anxious about, such as her appearance or weight.
Also, make sure she is sufficiently aroused prior to trying to have an climax from oral s*x, intercourse, or hand stimulation. There is no magic cue to tell, so talk to her!
Q: Can he bring her to climax during a quickie?
A: It depends how quick the quickie is. There are few women who can climax in less than 5 minutes, but some can.
More often, though, the answer is no.
Q: How can a guy give a woman multiple orgasms?
A: Not all women report ever having had multiple orgasms. In some studies, it seems that less than half of women have reported this.
That doesn’t mean that they aren’t capable of multiple orgasms, but it does mean that we don’t know how many are.
For women who want multiple orgasms—and that is key, guys—try to maintain stimulation through the first climax so that she can keep going.
For women who are neutral about multiples or don’t care, don’t pressure her (and yes, trying too hard counts as pressure) because pressure and climax rarely mix.
Q: What is the best s*x position for her climax?
A: There is no such thing: It depends on the woman.
Again, not all women can climax during intercourse.
Some climax more easily from stimulation of the front wall of the v**ina, others more easily from direct stimulation of the cli**ris.
Missionary and rear entry are among the more common positions and probably for a reason: Each provides either clitoral or front-wall stimulation, making them good bets for many women.
Q: Is oral s*x best?
A: No, but the direct stimulation of the clitoral glans does make it easier for many women to climax.
Q: How can a guy tell if he really is her “best ever”?
A: If she tells you that.
Q: What about women achieving climax through fantasy alone?
A: We know that it is possible, but relatively rare.
Orgasms resulting from waking fantasies are not at all common, and dreams during sleep are somewhat common.
Q: And what’s this about a bosom climax?
A: We don’t even really understand how clitoral/vaginal orgasms work, let alone how bosom-stimulated orgasms work.
We have various theories, but no one really knows. All we know is that some women (that is, the minority) have had this experience.
I wouldn’t encourage a guy to try to give a woman these types of orgasms because that can result in too much pressure, frustration, and dissatisfaction—and that wouldn’t provide a service to either party.