So, your honeymoon planning is stressing you out and you’re about to cancel the whole thing – there you are arguing about when to go, where to go to and how much to spend, and more things you can’t seem to agree about the honeymoon. On top of all that, you have some questions that you feel answers will help you move on with your honeymoon plans. And you wished that a honeymoon/ wedding planner could just show up now and help you figure out how to straighten things up – and plan an unforgettable honeymoon. In this questions and answers style post, we set out to answer some of the common questions that couples have about planning a memorable honeymoon without stress. Read on.
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Couple Fighting Is Common During Honeymoon Planning, But Ignoring it is Dangerous
The honeymoon is the most memorable trip of your life but then it is the most difficult to plan. Because you’re not a twin of your husband/ wife, there’s bound to be disagreements and quarrels about the honeymoon details and plans – such as where to go for honeymoon (he wants Dubai or Vegas, you want Paris), or type of hotel or place to stay during the honeymoon (you want a quiet romantic beach and he wants a hotel in the city center), OR when to have the honeymoon (you want it right after the wedding and he says maybe when planning your first wedding anniversary). And such disagreements add to the stress of wedding planning. What should you do if faced with these kinds of situation during honeymoon planning? We’ve heard and seen many couples totally cancel their honeymoons and in extreme cases, some have even called off the wedding – just because they could not settle on how to plan their honeymoon when they have different views of what the honeymoon should be like. We know that you want the wedding and also want the honeymoon – and without any arguments. So, below are our answers to the honeymoon questions that most couples have.
What is a Honeymoon, Really?
According to our trusty Wikipedia, “a honeymoon is the traditional holiday taken by newlyweds to celebrate their marriage in intimacy and seclusion… Today, honeymoons by Westerners are often celebrated in destinations considered exotic and/or romantic. This is the period when newly wed couples take a break to share some private and intimate moments that helps establish love in their relationship. This privacy in turn is believed to ease the comfort zone towards a physical relationship, which is one of the primary means of bonding during the initial days of marriage”.
When is the best time to start planning honeymoon trip?
We recommend that you start planning your honeymoon early – while you’re planning your wedding. Late planning and trying to find last minute trips will only give you more things to worry about – there’s no need to add to your wedding stress. Simply include honeymoon plans in your wedding planning checklist of things to do – maybe, make it the last item, so that there’s no way to forget it. Besides, you can get plenty hotel discounts and flight travel discounts by booking your honeymoon trip months in advance. Also, you need a good amount of time to research and ask around for honeymoon destination ideas; and a good amount of time to compare your findings and finally choose. So, plan your honeymoon far in advance to avoid stress and also get great bargains.
Where is the best honeymoon destination for me?
First think of what kinds of things and activities you both want to do during the honeymoon, and then start looking for the travel destinations/ places where those activities are easily available – you may be surprised to find out that the honeymoon destination that has all your kind of fun things may not be popular. If you’re not sure about what activities that a potential honeymoon destination/ hotel/ place offers, just ask. One of the mistakes we hear from couples after their honeymoon is that the honeymoon hotel or destination they chose was too boring or not fit for their personality and so they did not enjoy it – usually those couples chose a destination or place that they heard from their friends or the social media without thinking of what kind of lifestyle that place offers – and whether that lifestyle is a fit for them.
Just because your best friend had her honeymoon in Zanzibar doesn’t mean that you’ll enjoy that same place – first think about what that place will offer you and see if those are what you enjoy. So, we advise that you keep an open mind about the honeymoon destination or location, and focus on a location that has everything you want. We often find that most couples don’t even have a list of what they want to see or do during their honeymoon – all they talk about is the destination; and it’s always the popular destinations/ countries – because they want to look cool in front of their friends. We want you to have a fun-filled honeymoon and so we suggest that you pick the location that offers you your kind of fun.