Do you get tingles in your toes and b*tterflies in your stomach whenever your boss bumps into you? Now, although falling for your boss is more like inviting trouble (or so it seems), it is always safe to identify whether it is just a crush or something more than that.
So, here is how you can pinch yourself back to reality and get off the barbed fence!
#1. Give yourself a reality check
Do you think you are confusing admiration with love? If so, your brain is tricking you in the worst way possible. Often, people in the position of authority are undeniably attractive and command attention, but do you really think it is more than that? Have you fallen head-over-heels and cannot stop obsessing about your boss? If not, then you should probably be getting off the couch, stop emotional eating and think of better things of likeable consequences. For instance, pump some spark into your neglected social life, so that at least in one part of the day, you are absolutely disconnected from work and enjoying with people you have ignored for long.
You are not the only one to fall for your boss. For some people, it begins right from the interview, like this couple: Watch Love Blossom At A Job Interview- To Sir With Love
#2. Talk to your friends, not colleagues
Of course, we are humans and our heart bleeds love, but do you think that there is space in your heart to let office romance blossom? Talk to your close friends and pour your heart out. They are more likely to give an objective and non-judgemental point of view. You might be pressuring yourself in to believing that you have found your Mr. Perfect, but find out if you really have been fooling yourself? Remember, not to mention or disclose the wobble in your knees to your office friends (no matter how close) because you would not come to know when this secret becomes a rumour.
#3. Find out if you are being manipulated
You may be an extremely diligent and hardworking person, but are you sure you are not being exploited or manipulated? Now, your boss may have noticed your absolute adulation and he’she may be plotting to get his/her work done in order to climb the ladder of success even further. So, you must look at their track record to see if they earned or scored their way to the top. You do not want to end up exhausting yourself with this one-sided admiration, where you are being skinned to your bones.
#4. Do not make your feelings obvious
The tingles in your throat and b*tterflies in your stomach will need some taming. Make sure you do not spend too much time devising strategies for ‘dressing to impress’, or of ‘taking charge of every project’ to get yourself noticed. Wear the regular clothes and look out for your body language. Any change in behaviour around your boss, will not only be noticed by your colleagues, but also by the one you secretly adore. You may inadvertently become a b*tt of office jokes.
Women with power are certainly a deadly combo. Do read here these 13 Cool Reasons Why Bossy Women Make Awesome Wives
#5. Catch-22 situation
If the feelings are mutual,that is, both you and your boss confess to ‘liking’ each other, you may find yourself in catch-22 situation. Either you would have to switch departments or your job (check if your office policies are tolerant of office romance). If you choose to continue working in the same office, it would be better if you avoid flirting with each other.
Now, you must understand that like any other relationship there is a 50-50 chance that this relationship, will work or not. But, there is always a danger of mixing your personal life with the professional one in such situations. So, whether you want to get over the whirlpool of emotions or ride along the tide, it is completely your decision.