DearBunmi,

I’m 24 years old and my partner is 10 years older.

We’ve been together for four years and agreed to have a family when we could afford it.

Thank goodness we’re both working now. I think this is a good time to start our family, but he doesn’t seem interested.

I know we can afford a baby and he needs to know he’s not getting younger.

I love him so much and I want to have his baby more than anything. I’m still young, so should I move on and find someone who does want to have kids now?

Lauren, by e-mail.

Dear Lauren,

If your partner’s truly not interested in having a baby, then in the end you’ll probably split up because your life aims are different.

But if he’s asking for more time, then wait a while.

I wonder why you want a baby so badly. Often, that means you want to get pregnant for the wrong reasons – you feel it would give you confidence, or love.

For your sake, as well as the baby’s, make this decision calmly – rather than rushing into it.

Though I agree with you that a man in his 30s should be thinking of settling down, he could dither up to the point of looking for a different partner

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