Life is meant to be exciting. Boredom is something man is willing to pay whatever price to do away with. One of the reasons why we get married in the first instance is for companionship, and one major thing we seek companionship for is to make life exciting, to make life fun, to make life interesting. But when in the marriage excitement is still lacking, people easily fall prey of getting it where they shouldn’t. Many men and even some women committed adultery, not because they planned to, but in their quest for excitement.
They went into marriage full of expectations but only to become disappointed a few years down the line because their expectation did not match with the reality they experienced. Life became more of a routine than fun and no one enjoys life as a routine, not even those who are confined to boredom . marriage or any other thing.
Couples must make their marriage fun. Your home must be an exciting place to be for you and your spouse, and even for your children. Your spouse must see you as fun to be with. Life should not be too serious. There are couples who don’t sit down together cracking jokes with each other. They frown around the house. They live life as if life is a disaster. Even when things are not the way you desire them to be, you don’t have to allow them to rob you of your happiness.
Together with your spouse, you must learn to enjoy where you are on the way to where you are going. Don’t live your life as if you are the one carrying all the problem of the whole world on your head. What informs who you are, is not your circumstance but your decision. That anyone is happy and full of life around you is not because life has been favourable to them, it is only because they have chosen to be happy and full of life. They have learnt to put their challenges and problems aside and enjoy life. Everyone has enough reason to keep them sad and touchy, even those we think life has been fair to. You only need to hear them speak.
For your marriage to be fun, s*x must become fun for you and your spouse. Many couples approach s*x as a thing they must do because they are married to one another. s*x must become what you and your spouse want to have because you enjoy having it with one another, and not because you must do it. It must not be a routine. That is why I don’t advocate couples having “set-aside days” of the week to have s*x.
s*x should flow out of our relating with one another. That is why Dr. Kevin Leman advocates that great s*x Begins in the Kitchen. As she is doing the cooking and you are passing the salt, she puts a piece of meat in your mouth, you use your teeth to cut it into two, you spit one half into her mouth while you chew the second half, one thing keeps leading to another and right there on the kitchen table, you are having fun.
That is what it is meant to be “fun”. Thank God the children have gone on holiday.
s*x with your spouse should be fun time. It is not just about you climbing your wife and “doing it”, neither is it just about you lying down there like a log of wood, waiting for him to finish whatever he is doing. You should make it as interesting as possible. You should be inventive about it. Try several methods. Create excitement. Change location. It doesn’t have to be on your bed and in your bedroom all the time. Every ground is a holy land as long as it is only the two of you that are there. From experience I can say that s*x out of the usual place is very exciting and interesting.
Increasing the s*xual excitement in your home takes a conscious effort, it doesn’t just happen. Go out of your way to learn about how to satisfy your spouse, learn and try out different styles. All these you can have access to through reading; there is nothing you want to know that somebody has not written about. Sit down with
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