So you’re both looking for a serious relationship, but how do you know if he’s serious about you?
A man who’s serious about a relationship is talking about serious things. He’s looking to qualify you as much as you are looking to qualify him.
A serious relationship type of guy talks to you about his vision for his life, his goals and his challenges. He’s willing to share himself with you and show vulnerability. But here’s the caveat and where your listening will really come into .: There’s a difference between a man who’s willing to share for the sake of rehashing and a man who is sharing for discovery. Therein lies the difference in the man who is serious about you, versus the man who is NOT.
A man who isn’t serious about you, or at least one who you shouldn’t take seriously, is the one who shares for the sake of sharing. He’s treating you like he would a therapist. He’s only interested in someone listening to him talk or in saying what you want to hear. Your conversation doesn’t go anywhere because he continues to rehash what has already been.
A man who is serious about you and your future together is sharing new ideas and asking questions so that he can learn and discover with you. Your conversation is exploratory and positive and has room for growth. He’s asking about your goals and your vision because he doesn’t want to continue to date you if you’re not serious about the same things.
THAT is a guy you should hang onto.