Flirting is the seductive dance between giving into your desires and leaving her wanting more. If you want to find success with women, you need to master this art. In this guide, we reveal the secrets and techniques to bring your attraction building skills to a whole new level.
1. Look Your Best & Groom Yourself
Flirting is all about attracting the other one you’re interested in. No matter whether this is your first encounter with the person or you’re trying to keep your relationship spicy, you need to look your best.
Your appearance is the most crucial thing that attracts another individual, and should be your top priority you should work on.
When a person is well-groomed, it shows that they care about their look and take pride in how they present themselves. Any man who is not well-kept gives off the impression that they’re lazy and really don’t value themselves.
2. Maintain High Confidence in Yourself
Confidence is a very attractive quality to both men and women, but especially to ladies. A confident man makes a woman feel safe and secure, while a timid man makes her feel insecure.
A person who is not confident is timid and unsure of themselves, which is not an attractive quality to anyone. The act of flirting really requires you to just be yourself and throw caution to the wind.
Our advice: If you’re not comfortable being forward and playful, then you need to start working on your self-esteem ASAP. Carry yourself well, do not be afraid to make the first move and don’t be shy. If you have low self-esteem, fake it until you finally gain your own natural confidence!
3. Use The Right Body Language to Attract Mates
When it comes to flirting, it may not be what you say, but what you don’t say that attracts the other person. We pick up on other people hitting on us through body language, tone of voice and what we say. What we say makes up only 7 percent of the equation, while body language makes up a whopping 55 percent!
Click on the image to learn more.To communicate your interest in her, try sending signals by:
- Raising your eyebrow at her.
- Accidentally bump into her on your way to the bathroom or at the bar.
- Touch her arm, back, shoulder or knee – in a way that’s not going to creep her out.
- Stay open (i.e. don’t cross your arms or legs).
- Move in close to listen to the conversation.
- Give her a smile.
- Loosen your tie.
Pay attention: Mirroring each other’s body language can also be a major turn-on. People are generally attracted to others that mimic their moves. It helps two strangers bond and sympathize with each other, but also indicates that you have a mutual interest in each other.
4. Communicate in a Way to Create Sexual Tension
Flirting is designed to do one thing – create sexual tension between you and your partner. We all want what we can’t have; what’s just out of our reach. When it gives the other person a taste of what they could have but then takes it away, it creates attraction that’s hard to ignore.
- When it comes to this, you need to know how to walk the line between its buildup and the point of no return. Pull your partner in, and then push them away; ignite the tension and then stop.
- Eye contact is a great way to build up sexual desires. Our eyes have an incredible way of communicating erotic desire through just one simple gaze. This can really get things going, but you need to avoid holding it for too long. Otherwise, it just gets creepy.
Keep in mind! Antagonistic and playful flirting can also build sexual tension by creating a power struggle between you and your partner. Building this type of attraction is crucial, but you also need to know when to give in and release the tension. Otherwise, you’ll wind up spending the night alone!
5. Use The Power of Light Touches
This is more than just an exchange of words or body language, you need to incorporate light touching into the mix.
When it comes to building up sexual tension, the power of touch cannot be ignored. Physical contact can send shivers down her spine and make her weak in the knees.
While touching should definitely be a part of flirting, you need to make sure that there’s a certain level of intimacy and comfort between the two of your first.
Needless to say, you should probably leave it out of the equation when your first approach a woman – unless you want to wear her drink for the rest of the night.
When you reach that comfortable point, be subtle and gentle with it:
- Her back and hips are charged areas. Keep your hand on the small of her back while the two of you walk.
- A gentle, warm breath on the back on her neck can give her goose bumps.
- Whisper something sweet, like “you smell nice” to ramp up the sexual tension.
Please note: Again, don’t forget to maintain the push-pull dynamic we talked about earlier. You want to build up a little tension and then take it away.
6. Smile & Maintain Eye Contact
Smiling and making eye contact are the basics of flirting. A smile shows you’re interested. Your eyes show your desire and are incredibly communicative. The right look can make the other person feel like being the only one in the room.
Of course, there’s a difference between being flirty and being downright creepy. If the person of interest catches you staring, lock eyes with them for a moment, smile and then look away. Staring too long and too intently may make you come off as a creep.
Even after the initial contact has been made, smiling and deep looks into others eyes are crucial. Maintaining one with your partner throughout your conversation and throw in a playful look here and there. Never underestimate the power of your gaze and your smile.
7. End The Conversation with a Compliment Before She Does
When the talking comes to an end, you have to leave a good impression.
Complimenting her will leave her feeling good about you and have her thinking about you too.
It’s also a great way to make a smooth exit. Tell her that it was nice talking to her and wish her luck on something that the two of you talked about. Tell her to have a good night.
Make sure that you compliment her and end the conversation before she does. When you do this first, you take charge and end the interaction the way you want to.
8. Practice a Lot!
To really master the art of flirting, you need to practice – a lot. Make it a point to get out and start gaining experience with women.
Sure, you may not always succeed, but you’ll learn what works and what doesn’t first-hand!