One of the greatest fears in a marriage is infidelity, and for good reason. Often, before anyone has any reason to be worried, the fear of being cheated on drills itself in, leading to accusations or wall-building between otherwise loving couples.
To avoid cheating and end the fear, here are four actions that help couples stay faithful.
1. Stop the wandering eye
A deliberate double look or tracking of another person only creates questions in the mind of your spouse. Instead, if you are in public together, make direct eye contact with your spouse, listen to the conversation, ask genuine questions and remain involved in the company sitting right in front of you. Yes, there are other attractive people in the world. However, there is a difference between noticing someone’s looks and full-on staring at a person. Wandering eyes and thoughts are a form of infidelity. Avoid this type of cheating at all costs.
2. Don’t compare your spouse to anyone
When you compare your spouse to others, your partner naturally develops self-doubt. This causes them to close up and can create reluctance when it comes to intimacy. If you find yourself tempted to compare, turn things around by genuinely complimenting your spouse on something you find attractive about them. Looking for the good in your spouse literally changes your brain. If your partner dismisses the compliment, stand by it by saying something like, “These are my feelings, and they are true.”
3. Include your spouse in intimate moments
Do intimate things together. Invite your spouse to join you in moments like prayer, Bible study, meditation and lazy days sitting out on the balcony. Spending this kind of time together causes a powerful energy to pass between you.
Also, recognize what is intimate to you may be very different from what is intimate to your husband or wife. Your spouse’s intimate activities may be washing the car, running errands. Doing the types of activities that are intimate to your partner will strengthen your relationship and absolutely create depth between you.