Honesty is a wonderful virtue and is a major part of every good relationship. But you don’t tell a prospective employer you have a shoplifting problem and can’t get along with co-workers. You don’t tell a cop who pulled you over for a taillight that you have a bag of pot under your front seat.

And you don’t tell your new squeeze all of your twisted little secrets.

If you want a relationship to develop, put your best foot forward and let discretion be the better part of honesty.

There are some things a woman should just never admit on a date. There is plenty of time, once trust and love have developed, to tell him everything he needs to know.

But here are some things he never needs to know.

1. You don’t have a job.
You don’t want to lie and say you’re employed if you’re not, but it’s not the best thing to lead off with.

If you’re on food stamps and have a housing voucher or your parents still support you, that may look like a sign of weakness and a threat that you could become dependent on him or that you’re looking for a meal ticket and not a boyfriend.

2. You slept around in college or high school.
Your youthful experiences are your own private business. Too much casual s3x is not going to send a good signal.

3. You have a criminal record, were in a psych ward or got fired. The accepted wisdom is that leopards don’t change their spots.

It might be a great story or an unfair consequence you didn’t deserve, but it is still going to take the shine off your attractiveness and turn you into damaged goods in his eyes.

Just don’t go there.

4. You haven’t dated or had s’εx in a long time. If you tell him you’ve been out of circulation for a long time, the next question will be “Why?” And there’s never a good answer.

It will reflect badly on you and your value as a dateable woman.

5. You were sεxμally abused. Nearly one in every five women is raped or sεxμally abused. This is an issue that could affect your approach to a sεxμal relationship and needs to be addressed at some point.

But it is best for a man to see you as a strong woman before he sees you as a victim.

This will not make you damaged goods to most men, but it is still best to keep it to yourself until a bond and deeper knowledge of each other has developed.

6. Your ex is abusive and unstable. A man may think physical abuse can change a woman’s perception of all men, and he also may not want to get into a situation where a crazy dude might barge in on him and get violent.

Any messy breakup or divorce is not a topic to bring up on a date.

7. You get dumped a lot. Would you want to buy something six other people returned to the store because they didn’t like it? Probably not.

You know they were all jerks and cheaters and derelicts, but your date doesn’t. Men want a woman of high value, just as you want a man of value.

Don’t devalue your currency with stories that won’t help your situation and that he doesn’t need to know.

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