Picking up girls at bars seems simple for some people, but for most guys, it turns into a disaster.
Every man has that one friend that seemingly gets any chick he wants when he walks into a nightclub.
This is not something that is only able to be done by one person, but rather it is a skill that any dude can learn.
1. Do Not take It Too Seriously & Do Not Care What Women Think of You
The key to success with a bar pick-up is to take it easy. All too often men will take a bout of rejection to heart and simply no longer try to get other woman.
Instead, have fun and never take it too seriously. There will be some women that are interested and some that are not. If you are rejected, simply laugh and move on to the next girl.
The worst thing that you can do is let rejection get in the way of a perfectly fun evening. If you do not plan on having a long relationship with her, don’t put too many feelings out there. After all, most people hooking up in bars are looking for fun and not the love of their lives.
2. Stop Sending out Drinks Blindingly
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The days of sending drinks to a random girl are simply not as plentiful as before. If you value your money, you will only send them to one that:
- You plan to approach her immediately.
- That you have made eye contact with frequently.
You want her to know that you are the one that sent the drink.
3. Do Not Hesitate & Make Your Move
Hesitation is what leaves the most beautiful girl leaving the room without a man by her side. Did you know that most men will not approach a woman that they think is out of their league?
This is just plain silly as you have to try and make a good impression. Making a move must be done, or you will face immediate failure.
It never hurts to go talk to her and see if there are any sparks between the two of you. Waiting to make the move may even end up in someone else seizing the moment.
4. Pay Attention to Her Friends as Well
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You know what is worse than hesitating to make your move? Making a move and ignoring her friends! You must be mindful of the company that she keeps.
If her buddies like you, this will bolster your chances of actually hitting it off. Women will want you to acknowledge their friends. You must approach your chosen one first, and then make conversation with her closest circle as well.
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5. Be Interested in Her – Not Just Getting Her to Bed
Some chicks are only looking for sex, and some want to have an emotional bond before any real action begins. This will vary greatly from one chick to the next, but one thing is certain – you will be much better off learning about her.
Ask her questions about her life and try to make a connection. This will often led to better sex and you may even find a long-term partner in the process.
6. Try to Bring Her to a Quiet Spot
The bar is loud and not the kind of location where you can really get to know a person. Since this is the case, you will want to try bringing her to a quieter place to chat.
There are some issues with this including:
- Women may be afraid.
- Ladies want their friends around.
- The location may not offer such spot.
Outside bars may offer a quiet place or a simple walk in the park may allow you to get to know her better. If possible, try bringing her to such place so that distractions are kept to a minimum and the two of you can talk the night away.
7. Lead Her Physically & Mentally (Be a Self-Confident Leader)
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When you pick up a woman at the bar, you want to be the clear leader of the relationship. This means that you will want to:
- Be social – Ask questions, keep the conversation going and make jokes that she will laugh at.
- Change her environment – Suggest moving to a new table, buy the drinks and take control of her evening.
- Step it up – Make the first move for a kiss, hug or any further sexual advances.
Women love it when a man takes control of the night so that they can have fun. You will want to be a confident lead and always listen to her suggestions if they are mentioned. You have to be her leader, but always aim to be the pleasing one by following her wants.