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Relationship advice from men to women – Lifestyle News

So, the other day, I was casually scrolling through my Instagram and I came across a post that was asking men to give ladies some relationship advice.



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Men give women dating advice (Instagram theoprahroseshow)

 

There’s no denying that such posts are quite engaging. As you’d imagine, the ladies camped there to take notes on what the men had to say and boy, it was entertaining. I must admit that some of our kings do speak sense after all. Dating honestly feels like an extreme sport nowadays. If you’re a lady and you have been single for a while, maybe you could use some advice on how to figure this whole dating thing out.

Here’s what the guys had to say:

1. Men like “flowers” too ( a new shirt, a fitted, a bottle of tequila, just random gestures that say I was thinking of you and wanted to get you something you wouldn’t necessarily have gotten yourself) – kid.boy

2. Stop shouting at me. I hear u – el_guapok

3. Don’t listen to Steve Harvey  – rahim_thedream


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4. The question “What do you want for dinner?” will be the most difficult question in your relationship. Be kind, have an opinion – darerule

5. Be complete before you merge in a relationship…understand yourself before you seek to be understood – 876_chevy

6. Um I’m gay but hi, stay fabulous sisters and remember, don’t have his kids, swallow his kids – abdulcareymonroe


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7. Stop expecting a nigga to do something you can’t or won’t do for yourself – sccotti3_dripp3n

8. A back rub can go a long way after work – skratchywilliams

9. Not every guy you meet will be rich, he may be throwing a stunt and may not actually have a lot to offer, but as long as he can offer you his time, his attention and his love, be happy with him cause that may be all he can offer at the moment. If you can’t be happy with him for that at least, you got a problem – young_eric23


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ALSO READ: 5 mistakes women make when they get into a new relationship

10. Don’t have sex with your male friends, don’t disrespect your man with fighting words…don’t have double standards. Stop blaming all men and stop thinking you’re God’s gift to men and we should be lucky to be in your presence. Be mutual and like the man as much as he likes you and not what he can do for you – the_red_zulu

11. Love and relationships are forever going to be a gamble you’ll either lose or win so don’t blame other men for the mistakes or decision another man made – thats_nando

12. Listen to him too. You can’t be the only one who had a “bad day” and gets to vent/talk about it…everyday – adonis_direct

13. Bring more to the table than just good looks and sex. – ghostgotbeats


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14. Make SURE you maintain all of your female friendships, don’t go MIA on them…your man depends on you having plans sometimes so he can mobb (*hang with his friends) guilt free – alext.212

15. Bonus:

This guy who wrote a whole encyclopedia.

1. Balance is key (arrive with your own lifestyle & keep it).
2. Be thoughtful (know your advice this varies).
3. Stroke their ego (again, know your audience).
4. Stay off your phone on a date.
5. Don’t unpack your baggage in one day. Give him time to understand who you are slowly.
6. Don’t ask for what you can’t afford yourself.
7. Don’t ask if we like mixxy (*thicc and smoking hot chics), thots, want to . games, etc, most will lie. Ask: A. Single? Yes or no? B. Has dating been fun so far? C. What’s the most rewarding experience you had recently? Be real that we all dating & you are not the only one. Just be cool
8. Offer to buy the first round of drinks on the 2nd date. Even if he says “Nah, I’m good it’s appreciated”. Be clear that you want to buy the 2nd/1st round because he was so BLAH BLAH last time. 
9. Do anything but dinner in the summer <Fun activity>.
10. No matter how you present yourself do it well. I don’t care what you wearing, do your nails, lotion your skin, smell good and don’t overdo the makeup – tailormadeave



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Ladies, do you agree with this advice?

Editors note:

Posts slightly edited to remove the typos and add meaning to some words.

(H/T: Instagram @ theoprahroseshow)

ALSO READ: 15 relationship red flags that make ladies drop men like hot potatoes

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Here is an explanation for why communication dies slowly between a couple

Stonewalling in a relationship is what happens when one [or both] partners consciously and intentionally refuse to allow communication flow especially when there is something that really needs to be talked about.

Obviously, even when there aren’t issue or problems to deal with, the communication line between partners is meant to stay on at all times. Being able to talk to a partner; being able to express one’s deepest fears and even dumbest thoughts is one great thing about having a partner.


This is what stonewalling looks like – a partner trying to make things good, another refusing to listen.

But all that is put on hold with stonewalling.

Stonewalling is actually a form of communication deficiency, and differs greatly from the occasional timeout to calm down or collect your thoughts, which partners normally have every now and then.

It is an absolute refusal to consider your partner’s perspective. If you listen at all, you do it dismissively or contemptuously. It is a failure to practice the kind of communication skill required to keep your relationship going; and men have been accused of being main culprits of this.

According the result of a research carried out by Prof. John M. Gottman, a world-renowned psychologist, stonewalling “ is far more likely to be a male thing.”

“When women stonewall, it’s typically a function of temperament – they’re , inhibited, or . More commonly, it’s a learned behavior – engaging in conflict or emotion-laden conversation has exposed them to put-downs or abuse in the past.”

ALSO READ: 5 reassurances your girlfriend needs to hear regularly

And more interestingly, men do not even know when they do this. When their partners try to initiate conversations about certain important issues that affect them, they run or continuously push such discussions of dismiss them altogether.


Men are more guilty of stonewalling than women could ever be [Credit – LifeStyle.ng]

One of the signs that a man could be stonewalling is if he believes his partner nags him.

Women don’t necessarily nag all the time. When a partner keeps repeating something, it’s because she’s not being heard. A nagging partner is usually an unheard partner.

Whether it is practiced by a man or woman, stonewalling hurts your partner, and causes feelings of isolation, frustration, anger and could make them think that you don’t care about them or their opinions.’

There is only one solution to this malaise; intentional, effective communication.

Whether you have a spouse, bae, boo or you’re about to get one of these, stonewalling has no place in your relationship because great relationships thrive on communication not on negative actions as this.

Continue Reading

Relationship Tips

Here is an explanation for why communication dies slowly between a couple

Stonewalling in a relationship is what happens when one [or both] partners consciously and intentionally refuse to allow communication flow especially when there is something that really needs to be talked about.

Obviously, even when there aren’t issue or problems to deal with, the communication line between partners is meant to stay on at all times. Being able to talk to a partner; being able to express one’s deepest fears and even dumbest thoughts is one great thing about having a partner.


This is what stonewalling looks like – a partner trying to make things good, another refusing to listen.

But all that is put on hold with stonewalling.

Stonewalling is actually a form of communication deficiency, and differs greatly from the occasional timeout to calm down or collect your thoughts, which partners normally have every now and then.

It is an absolute refusal to consider your partner’s perspective. If you listen at all, you do it dismissively or contemptuously. It is a failure to practice the kind of communication skill required to keep your relationship going; and men have been accused of being main culprits of this.

According the result of a research carried out by Prof. John M. Gottman, a world-renowned psychologist, stonewalling “ is far more likely to be a male thing.”

“When women stonewall, it’s typically a function of temperament – they’re , inhibited, or . More commonly, it’s a learned behavior – engaging in conflict or emotion-laden conversation has exposed them to put-downs or abuse in the past.”

ALSO READ: 5 reassurances your girlfriend needs to hear regularly

And more interestingly, men do not even know when they do this. When their partners try to initiate conversations about certain important issues that affect them, they run or continuously push such discussions of dismiss them altogether.


Men are more guilty of stonewalling than women could ever be [Credit – LifeStyle.ng]

One of the signs that a man could be stonewalling is if he believes his partner nags him.

Women don’t necessarily nag all the time. When a partner keeps repeating something, it’s because she’s not being heard. A nagging partner is usually an unheard partner.

Whether it is practiced by a man or woman, stonewalling hurts your partner, and causes feelings of isolation, frustration, anger and could make them think that you don’t care about them or their opinions.’

There is only one solution to this malaise; intentional, effective communication.

Whether you have a spouse, bae, boo or you’re about to get one of these, stonewalling has no place in your relationship because great relationships thrive on communication not on negative actions as this.

Continue Reading

Relationship Tips

Here is an explanation for why communication dies slowly between a couple

Stonewalling in a relationship is what happens when one [or both] partners consciously and intentionally refuse to allow communication flow especially when there is something that really needs to be talked about.

Obviously, even when there aren’t issue or problems to deal with, the communication line between partners is meant to stay on at all times. Being able to talk to a partner; being able to express one’s deepest fears and even dumbest thoughts is one great thing about having a partner.


This is what stonewalling looks like – a partner trying to make things good, another refusing to listen.

But all that is put on hold with stonewalling.

Stonewalling is actually a form of communication deficiency, and differs greatly from the occasional timeout to calm down or collect your thoughts, which partners normally have every now and then.

It is an absolute refusal to consider your partner’s perspective. If you listen at all, you do it dismissively or contemptuously. It is a failure to practice the kind of communication skill required to keep your relationship going; and men have been accused of being main culprits of this.

According the result of a research carried out by Prof. John M. Gottman, a world-renowned psychologist, stonewalling “ is far more likely to be a male thing.”

“When women stonewall, it’s typically a function of temperament – they’re , inhibited, or . More commonly, it’s a learned behavior – engaging in conflict or emotion-laden conversation has exposed them to put-downs or abuse in the past.”

ALSO READ: 5 reassurances your girlfriend needs to hear regularly

And more interestingly, men do not even know when they do this. When their partners try to initiate conversations about certain important issues that affect them, they run or continuously push such discussions of dismiss them altogether.


Men are more guilty of stonewalling than women could ever be [Credit – LifeStyle.ng]

One of the signs that a man could be stonewalling is if he believes his partner nags him.

Women don’t necessarily nag all the time. When a partner keeps repeating something, it’s because she’s not being heard. A nagging partner is usually an unheard partner.

Whether it is practiced by a man or woman, stonewalling hurts your partner, and causes feelings of isolation, frustration, anger and could make them think that you don’t care about them or their opinions.’

There is only one solution to this malaise; intentional, effective communication.

Whether you have a spouse, bae, boo or you’re about to get one of these, stonewalling has no place in your relationship because great relationships thrive on communication not on negative actions as this.

Continue Reading
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