The No. 1 Cause Of Divorce May Not Be What You Think…...

The No. 1 Cause Of Divorce May Not Be What You Think… SEE The Real Cause


I’m convinced the No. 1 cause of divorce is not adultery, financial problems or irreconcilable difference. Those are most often symptoms of a deeper problem.

While these problems might be real, I believe there is a bigger issue.

The most common issue I see with couples who are struggling in marriage is a lack of intentional investment in their marriage.

While it’s a fair debate of which comes first — did someone lose interest so they lost intention, or did someone lose intention so they lost interest — either way there is a key idea:

We can influence our feelings by intentionally investing in our marriage.

As I’ve written before, our affections often grow toward our investments. Wherever we put our time, money and energy also ends up receiving our passion, interest and affection.

Think about what this means for a marriage: You will generally feel for your spouse to the extent in which you invest in your spouse.

Your feelings are often far less about them and far more about what effort you have put into your marriage.

Obviously there are exceptions. Some people have made bad choices in whom they married, or the spouse has made a bad choice in whom they have become, but most of the time, we love our spouse to the extent that we invest in our spouse.

Consider what this means: If your feelings of love are waning, they can be recovered. With some effort, intention and energy, love can grow.




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