We have been raised with so many insane notions that sometimes, it’s hard to separate truths from myth. And one example is the idea that some women are ‘tight’ down there and others are ‘loose.’ To top it off, there is the belief that women who dare to have an active sex life will be punished with the debilitating condition that is a loose vagina.
So how much of this is true? Will regular sex cause your vagina to lose its elasticity? Or will things stay just the same as long as you have loads of sex but with the same partner. Perhaps childbirth will widen it so much that five penises and their brothers will comfortably fit in there.
Considering women’s obsession with the tightening of the vagina (thank you Kayan Mata) one has to wonder, how tight is too tight, how loose is too loose and if there really is such a thing.
Loose woman = loose vagina?
The myth of the loose vagina has historically been used as a way to shame women for their sex life. This idea is primarily used to describe a woman who has had sex with more than one man. But let’s clear one thing up. It doesn’t matter who you have sex with or how often, penetration doesn’t cause your vagina to stretch out permanently.
Now to the science of it all
The vagina is elastic and magical (sorry, we just have to throw that in there). It can stretch to accommodate things going in(i.e a penis, a sex toy) or going out (i.e a baby). But it usually returns to its previous shape in no time. Sure, there may stretch slightly as you age or have children but not so significantly that it feels like a massive difference. Overall, your vagina muscles expand and retract like a rubber band.
Tight doesn’t always mean good
men people’s idea of the perfect sex is much like a cucumber trying to go through a hole made by a needle, vaginal tightness isn’t always a good thing.
A tight vagina may indicate an underlying concern. Usually, your vagina muscles should naturally relax when you’re aroused. If you’re not turned on, interested or physically prepared for sex, your vagina would not stretch or self-lubricate. This can lead to painful sex. Extreme vaginal tightness could also be a symptom of a condition known as vaginismus.
Bottom line. There’s nothing wrong with your vagina. But if you have any concerns about the state of things down there, bring them up with your doctor instead of allowing yourself to be shamed.
Instead of obsessing over the ‘looseness’ of your vagina, you’d do better to spend your time learning these habits that help keep things healthy down there.
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