1: Don’t think you are the Project: It’s true that he has to woo you, chase you, court you and all that but once you both are married. You become his helper. Don’t ever have the mentality that he married you to pet and care for you. Its true he will do that but that is not the main reason for the marriage. You are not his life project rather you are to assist him achieve and attain his life project.
2- Don’t Turn Him Against His People: don’t turn the mother that bore him for nine months into a witch in his eyes pls. His relatives shouldn’t become his enemies because you married him. Don’t destroy the family relationship.
3- Don’t Try To Change Him: You met him that way. You loved him that way. Why are you trying to change him now?. If you met him drinking alchohol, brace yourself to put up with it. Dont try to change him. You are not the HolySpirit.
4- Don’t Be Too Familiar: don’t be too familiar with your husband. Queen Vashti lost her crown to Esther because she was too familiar with her husband. Her husband sent for her and she refused to go. Dont get too familiar. Dont forget he is still your head. Still respect him.
5- Don’t Stop Looking Good: this one is a major one. He met you looking s*xy, fabolous and great. Don’t stop looking that way. Even after having kids, hit the gym and still keep fit. Don’t forget that he sees fresh babes every day as he goes out. Men are moved by what they see. Don’t stop looking good.
6- Help Him On Bed: I won’t talk much on this one but please don’t make !s*x! Boring for him.
7- Don’t Nag: Please don’t nag biko. Instead of nagging, pray to God. God can change his heart, you can’t change his heart.
8- Don’t Try To Train Your Husband: You are expected to love your husband not to train him. If his mother that has been with him for the first part of his life can’t change him on certain things, dont think that you can. Just help him.
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