Advice for Parents… From a Teen’s Perspective
Whether parents want to admit is or not, at some point, their teens will start to talk about s*x as well as engage in it. Do you know what to do when it’s time to talk about s*x with your teen? Research suggests that teens are becoming aware of s*x and participating in it at much younger ages:
▪ Six percent of 13 year olds have had s*xual intercourse.
▪ Forty-six percent of all high school students have already engaged in s*x.
▪ Half of all teenagers don’t believe oral s*x is s*x.
▪ Fourteen percent of high school students report having already had 4 or more s*xual partners.
▪ Seventeen percent of sexually active teens aged 15–19 years report not using any birth control the last time they had s*x.
▪ Twenty percent of teens have had s*x . age 15.
▪ Fifty percent of parents to 8th-11th graders were unaware that their teens had started to have s*x.
▪ One in every 5 teenage girls will become pregnant during high school—6.7 percent of girls ages 10-14 will become pregnant.
▪ Thirty-four percent of all high school students report being sexually active (meaning they have had s*x in the . 3 months).
Why is it so important that parents talk about s*x with their teens? Data suggests that:
▪ About 32 percent of teens (ages 15-19) say that the did not receive any formal s*x education before reaching age 18 (that includes how to say no to s*x). Of the teens who did receive instruction, about 60 percent of these teens didn’t have any s*x education before 10th grade.
▪ More than 50 percent of teens ages 10-15 say that if they are considering having s*x and/or want guidance on dealing with the pressure to have s*x, they would first want to talk to their parents.
▪ Only 31.7 percent of boys and 51.7 percent of girls (ages 15-17) have discussed birth control methods with a parent whereas 75.8 percent of teen boys and 60.7 percent of teen girls say that their parents never talked to them about where to get birth control.
▪ Forty-eight percent of 15-17 year olds who haven’t had s*x and 56% of those who have had s*x say that they never talked with their parents about how to know when you are ready to have s*x.
▪ About 50.1 percent of teenage moms reported doing nothing to prevent pregnancy.
▪ Sixty-nine percent of teens 12-19 say that they would find it much easier to delay s*xual activity and avoid teen pregnancy if they were able to have more open, honest conversations about these topics with their parents.
Believe it or not, parents have a very important influence on whether or not their teens become pregnant. Although as parents you cannot control your teen’s s*xual decisions, the quality of your relationships with your teen can truly make a difference. Data suggests that teens who are close to their parents and feel supported . them are more likely to abstain from s*x, wait until they are older to begin having s*x, have fewer s*xual partners and use contraception more consistently. The message—don’t wait to talk about s*x with your teen. Start these conversations early—and repeat them often. This way, your teen will feel more comfortable talking about s*x with you.
So, how do you talk about s*x with your teen? What should you talk about? The following is what teens say they want to their parents to know when it comes to the s*x talk:
1 Teens Have Questions
For many teens, thinking about having s*x or knowing friends who are having s*x can be stressful, overwhelming and scary. It may be the first time that your teen has to consider adult dilemmas, such as showing the responsibility to prevent an unintended pregnancy—deciding if they would be okay with having an abortion, becoming a parent, or the thought of adoption. Teens are bombarded with s*xual peer pressure from friends, the media, books, music, magazines and video games. It is important to talk about s*x with them, even if they don’t initially ask the questions. Teens need help and guidance in understanding the context and meaning of s*x. They may be embarrassed or afraid to come to you for advice, so try to offer it to them instead. Assume they have questions and be the trusted . who can provide the answers.
2 Teens Do Care
Even if your teen may not behave like it or tell you so, teens really do seem to care about what their parents tell them. So, whether they act like it or not, your teen wants (and needs) your guidance. Your teen wants to please you and make you proud.
3 They Need to Be Prepared
It is important that you talk about s*x, contraception and sexually transmitted infections (STIs) with your teen. Teens need to understand how the female body works and how pregnancy occurs. If your teen is having s*x, he/she needs to have accurate information about how not to become pregnant and catch an STI. Even if your teen is not sexually active, he/she will be at some point his or her life. Would you rather your teen receive correct information from you or rely on false information/myths from their friends?
4 Responsible and Honest Relationships
Teens need positive, adult role models. They need to see what dependable relationships look like. When you share activities with your teen and demonstrate parental caring, teens can be positively influenced. The quality of your family life is also associated with teen pregnancy risk. Teens who grow up in abusive families, single-family homes and/or poverty are more likely to be having s*x. Focus on creating closeness between you and your teen, and teach them ways to behave that could help to prevent hurt feelings or hurting others.
5 Do More Than Lecture About Abstinence
Although it is important to clearly convey your expectations and values to your teen, teens need more. Research suggests that talking about birth control and abstinence at the same time doesn’t cause confusion or mixed messages. Teens get it—so . having these responsible discussions, you are conveying respect to your teen. You can also use this time to tell your teen how you feel as long as you also listen to what they have to say.
6 Teen Pregnancy Isn’t Good
Less than half of all teens agree that they are getting a clear message that unplanned teen pregnancy is wrong. It seems that 71 percent of female teens and 64 percent of male teenagers agreed or strongly agreed that it is okay for an unmarried female to have a child. Even more alarming, only 58 percent of female teens and 47 percent of male teens said that they would be very upset if they got pregnant (or got a partner pregnant). In fact, 14 percent of the girls and 18 percent of the boys indicated that they would be pleased if they became pregnant (or caused a pregnancy). Data like this suggest that teens may not agree that teen pregnancy can be problematic—only 12 percent of teen boys stated that they didn’t want to have s*x because they were afraid to get a girl pregnant.
7 Pay Attention
Know that monitoring and supervising your teen’s behavior does make a difference. Pay attention and be involved. Learn who their friends are. Don’t falsely believe that you will know when your teen is having s*x—most parents don’t. Make it a point to routinely express concern and love for your teen and not just wait until your teen misbehaves. Also, pay close attention to your teen if he/she has an older sibling who is having s*x—teens in this situation have a greater tendency to engage in s*x at an earlier age.
8 Don’t Assume They’re Doing It
When all is said and done, teens need accurate information, so they can make informed decisions. If your teen comes to you asking about information on contraception and s*x, don’t just assume they are having s*x. Most parents are in agreement that they would prefer that their teen remain abstinent, but this doesn’t mean that teens won’t be curious about s*x. Answer your teen’s questions without judgment. Remember that abstinence-only s*x education doesn’t keep teens from having s*x—only comprehensive s*x education programs (ones that discuss both abstinence and contraception) result in delayed s*xual initiation in teens. So don’t fall into the trap of believing that discussing contraception with your teen will encourage s*xual behavior.
9 Unhealthy Relationships
Teens may need assistance in identifying whether or not they are in an unhealthy or potentially abusive relationship. They may view possession as a sign that their boyfriend/girlfriend loves them so much that he/she always wants to be with them. Teen relationships where there are older partners or differences in race, ethnicity, social economic statuses, etc., tend to be linked with lower contraception use. This is also the case if your teen doesn’t know their partner very well. It may be difficult for your teen to negotiate s*xual activity and/or contraception use if he/she is in an unhealthy relationship. Teens also need to be warned about the potential dangers of cyberspace.
10 Nobody Really Wants to Talk About s*x
Let’s face it, most parents dread having to talk about s*x with their teens, and teens don’t exactly look forward to the s*x talk either. If you begin these discussions when your kids are young, it is easier to just add onto these talks as your children grow. Whenever you do talk about s*x, it should be a conversation, not a lecture. Even though you may feel uncomfortable, your teen is probably feeling way more embarrassed, so do everything you can to make them feel comfortable and respected. Encourage your teen to ask questions and discuss their point of view. In any case, the job of a parent is to prepare their children for adulthood. Part of this responsibility is helping your teen to learn how to make safe and smart s*xual decisions.
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