Are you a missionary man or a doggystyle devotee? Whatever your go-to move, >’s what it means
Some men love missionary, and some dudes dig doggystyle. Others like their ladies on top, while certain guys stick with spooning.
Sure, your favorite s*x position is probably the one that gives you the best climax—but on a subconscious level, your go-to move also says something about your personality in the sack.
The Move: Missionary is like s*x 101: It’s the way we’re “taught” to have s*x, and the way that we see it most often in rom-coms and TV shows.
But although this position is a classic, a missionary man might be a little insecure or “need reassurance . seeing his lover be responsive,” says s*x therapist Ava Cadell, Ph.D., author of Neurolovology.
You may also be keen on having control during s*x, as missionary gives you all the driving power.
Since the position finds both people face-to-face, there’s some intimacy to it—but its basicness suggests the guy might not be confident about the other moves in his arsenal. “It’s romantic, but not very adventurous,” Cadell says.
Switch Things Up: There’s nothing wrong with loving the classics, but make sure you take a walk on the wild side every now and then.
“If you can only climax during missionary, that’s a problem,” Cadell says, and you’ll need to do some “reprogramming” to your s*x life.
Try switching to woman on top, which has all of the same intimate qualities, but will let you relinquish some of that control—and spice things up.
The Move: We’ve never met a guy who didn’t like doggy. This, some believe, is how man was meant to have s*x.
A doggy-lover “taps into his territorial animalistic instinct as king of the jungle,” says Cadell, “but he also has fears of intimacy and is generally unromantic.”
After all, you probably don’t go for rear entry because you want to whisper sweet nothings in her ear from behind.
Switch Things Up: You can get the deepest penetration from this position, but what you earn in depth, you lose in intimacy. To make up for it, spring for spoons every now and then.
You’ll still get to enter from behind, but the snuggly qualities of spooning s*x will make your partner feel like a dime, rather than a piece of meat. (Want more? Check out the 45 s*x Positions Every Couple Should Try.)
WOMAN ON TOP
The Move: The beauty of this position is that there are a million ways to do it—and it’s all up to her.
Men who love their women on the saddle are likely concerned with pleasing their partners, and Cadell says this move shows that “he’s confident in being submissive, but he can also be dominant when he enables her to reach her climax with deeper penetration.”
Basically, you get off helping her get off.
Switch Things Up: We get that you like the view from down there—who wouldn’t?—but take control every now and again . flipping her over. She’ll appreciate the occasional shift in power, and the view isn’t bad from back there, either.
The Move: Given that spooning is most often associated with cuddling and sleep, it’s no surprise that this super intimate position is often the go-to for guys who have a soft spot.
But men who love the move aren’t wimps—instead, they’re “passionate and eager to please their lover,” Cadell says.
Switch Things Up: Everyone likes to experience the sweeter side of s*x, and props for being a romantic. But you can still be intimate while igniting a little more fire into your s*x life.
While in the spooning position, reach around to stimulate her cli**ris, or try a position like missionary where you can gaze lovingly into each other’s eyes—while penetrating her even deeper.
The Move: Pressed against the front door, hoisted onto the kitchen counter, or in the shower, you can have standing s*x anywhere but the bed.
That’s why guys who like this position best are adventurous, and often turned on . the idea of being naughty.
The standing man is a “mischievous lover who gets a thrill out of getting caught, and wants to have as much fun as possible with little regard of the consequences,” says Cadell.
Switch Things Up: Novelty is part of what keeps your s*x life hot, so don’t let yours simmer down . going to the same standing position time after time.
Vary up the locations you choose, or switch to doggy from time to time—you can have your partner standing and bending over a table—to keep things interesting