5 Sexual Things You Must Discuss With Your Lady

Communication is the most important part of any type of relationship especially when you intend for the relationship to work out and achieve the goals of that relationship. That’s why its no surprise that great communication and understanding also leads to great sexual intimacy amongst partners. 

Couples who discuss tricky topics, like what’s going down in the bedroom, are 10 times more likely to have a happy relationship than those who ignore difficult subjects.

I don’t think I can stress this enough, bro before you get beneath under that sheet (and maybe even after), you’ve got to talk about sexual each other’s sexual interests and works for each other in the bedroom especially in you both want the relationship to work out and there are long-term commitments intended for the relationship. Experts advise that partners must have sexual discussions if they want to stay happy in their relationship married or not.
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Here are some 5 must-have conversations that are important to maintaining a healthy and fulfilling sexual relationship.

1. Know Each Other’s Love Language:

Know whats acts make your partner feel loved, appreciated and wanted. Be it buying of gifts, flirty sexy messages, or touching her sensually understanding this is tantamount to a happier and satisfying sexual affair between you and your partner.

Couples with different love languages can still completely satisfy each other as long as they both communicate what makes them feel most loved.

2. Discuss Your Sexual Fantasies and {Maybe Fetish}

This might seem quite a difficult terrain to tread or get into because a large chunk of Nigerian girls seem not to know what their sexual fantasies are. While a large chunk who might know what sexual fantasies are might never have had a proper orgasm before.

Most of them just recently started understanding that achieving orgasm too is also an ultimate part of having sex. And guys also need to do better and worry less about them just cumming and ensure they make their lady cum severally this can be achieved in a lot of ways oral, long foreplay, fingering are ways to help achieve this and not necessary can it be done only through sex.
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Another essential part of this particular discussion is to agree not to judge each others sexual fantasies

3. Discuss Turn-Ons (and Turn-Offs) conversation

Discussing what gets you going and what turns you off might be difficult, but it’s necessary. Bring up down-and-dirty dislikes outside of the bedroom. A lot of couples make the mistake of having them at the moment, and that creates a very vulnerable environment. You can use games to make the person tell you what you do wrong in the room, Example you both playing cards or ludo and you agree whoever loses tell the other person what he or she does in the bedroom that is an absolute turn off.

While the person that wins gets to tell the other partner what he/she does in the bedroom that makes them go ga-ga. This is a healthy way to have sexual discussions in a  relationship.

4. Cheating conversation

What constitutes cheating and infidelity isn’t black and white. But tackling the topic of cheating is easiest, and met with fewer defenses, when it’s not prompted by suspicion. So don’t wait until something goes wrong to define what behaviour won’t be tolerated. As a couple, make a list of acts that you consider cheating.

5. Frequent conversation

When it comes to the frequency at which you get freaky, you don’t need to be in the same sentence but you do have to be on the same page. If you want it every day and she wants it once a month, that’s going to be a problem. As with everything else, compromise is key. As unsexy as it sounds try maintaining a sex schedule. It can give you the chance to grab props, get the shower steamy, or avoid unwanted interruptions.

N:B: Sexual discussion is just as important in a relationship as sex itself. Talk about each other’s performance once in while after sex. Tell each other when you don’t fill satisfied. And when you indeed do blow each other’s mind tell each other too. You would be surprised how much great sex can do for a relation and sex is more than just thrusting hard and jamming your junks against her pelvic.

Sometimes being soft but conscious and deliberate may prove way more effective than that the extreme sex pounding even it is needed too a lot in fact so just have to know how to mix it up quite well.

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